Since she lives so close to where she works, my friend Jean is the envy of all her co-workers. No, it's not because she has a short commute or that she can go home for lunch — it's that she can go home to poop. Pooping at work doesn't make you less professional, as the most successful people poop at work. But for a lot of people, pooping at work certainly isn't their cup of tea.
From what you are describing it sounds like your son might have a condition known as encopresis. Often when kids have encopresis it is because they have experienced a painful bowel movement and they want to avoid having that pain again, so they avoid pooping. But what happens when you withhold defecating is that the poop hardens and forms a mass. This means that the fluid that needs to get out is passing around the mass in his rectum, and that is what is creating the soiling. So this means that your son needs to see a pediatric gastroenterologist, who will help him flush it out.
If you struggle to, you know, "let loose" in a public bathroom, you're not alone. In fact, the majority of people feel more comfortable "going" on their toilet at home, says Nick Haslam, a professor of psychology at the University of Melbourne and author of Psychology in the Bathroom. But while many of us feel that unmistakable urge the minute we walk in the door, the scientific reason behind it may make you better about needing to do 2 in private. It's a way in which your body responds to its environment. As soon as you cross the threshold of your home, your glucose tolerance, breathing and hormones apparently change in addition to a whole bunch of bodily adjustments.
Everybody poops. Yeah, we got that knowledge from the classic kids book. But the real question is: How frequently should you be dropping a deuce? Because if you always go once a day, and your roommate regularly visits the loo for a number two four times in 24 hours…well, one of you must have a problem, right? Relax, say experts.